Scars and Second Chances: Why I Wrote a Song About Stopping the Fight With Your Past
My new single, “Scars and Second Chances,” came from a strategic writing session, not a diary moment. But the truth snuck in anyway. It always does.
My third single of 2026. It took a co-write and 17 years of therapy to get here.
I want to tell you something about how this song got made, because it's not the story you'd expect.
Last year I made a decision to stop writing in every direction and start writing with focus. My sound — Southern Soul, a little swampy, a little dark, stomp and clap and soulful Americana — has a specific home on screen. Yellowstone universe. Landman. Tulsa King. Shows with grit and landscape and characters who've lived something hard. I have sync reps in L.A. pitching my recordings for exactly that world, and I needed catalog. So I wrote strategically. I came into rooms with titles, concepts, references. I was building something, not processing something.
That's how “Scars and Second Chances” started.
I came into the session with co-writer Devin Powers carrying a title, a chorus lyric, and a melody. My reference was ZZ Ward — specifically her track from the Cars soundtrack, “Ride.” That raw, gritty energy. Devin started playing guitar in this cool alternate tuning. Jangly, open, strummy. A little Fleetwood Mac. Honestly, it took it away from the ZZ Ward thing I'd walked in with. But it turned into its own thing. And it's cool. Sometimes the song knows better than you do.
What snuck in anyway
What I didn’t plan on was the through line.
Nearly every song I wrote in that focused, strategic year has redemption running through it. I wasn't writing from my diary. I was writing for sync, for catalog, and for the sound. But when I look back at the lyrics across all of it (“Scars and Second Chances” is one of the clearest examples) my actual life is in there. You can't keep yourself out of your own songs. I've tried.
The second verse is the one that gets me personally:
Tell me why we never change / Takes a breakdown before we find our way
I've needed breakdowns for real change in my life. Not metaphorical ones. Real ones that give you a wakeup call. I've been in therapy for about 17 years. Not crisis therapy — the kind where you do the slow work of making friends with who you actually are. And I can tell you from the other side of a lot of that work: the breakdowns were not the enemy. They were the door.
The chorus is where I land now:
There's no hiding where I've been / You can judge / But in the end / I'll sing Hallelujah / Redemption's sinking in
No judgment. No regrets. I wouldn't be who I am today without every single thing I've been through, including the parts I'm not proud of.
And I really like who I am today.
That's not something I could have said at every point in my life. Redemption's sinking in, indeed. It will, if you let it.
Who this song is for
An image from my photo shoot with Nathan Chapman. This was almost the cover artwork.
“Scars and Second Chances” is for the woman who has stopped running and started looking. The one who's put in enough work (therapy, prayer, time, hard conversations, quiet mornings) that she's starting to see her past differently. Not as evidence against her, but as the thing that built her.
She's done explaining herself. And she's proud of every scar that got her here.
If that's you, this song is yours.
“Scars and Second Chances” is out noweverywhere you listen to music. If you want to get closer to the songs — the ones still in the vault, the ones that never made an album, the ones written in little rooms that nobody else ever saw — that's what the Inner Listening Room is for. One unreleased song a month, with the whole story behind it. 10 songs and their stories are already in the archive, and it grows every month.
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What It's Like to Compose for Netflix From the Inside
I compose the score for Leanne, Chuck Lorre's Netflix sitcom starring Leanne Morgan. Keb' Mo' called me to lead the team. Here's what it actually feels like from the inside.
I Compose the Score for Leanne on Netflix.
Here's What Season 2 Felt Like.
I'm Lauren Lucas. I sing the theme song for Leanne, Chuck Lorre's Netflix sitcom starring Leanne Morgan. I also compose the music for the show (and if I’m doing it right, you don’t even notice the music, you only feel it). I’m wrapping up the music for Season 2 this week.
Not a bad room to be in. Leanne Morgan and Keb' Mo' in L.A. at the Season 1 wrap party of Leanne on Netflix
Season 1 was already a full-circle moment. Keb' Mo' (one of my genuine musical heroes) was hired by Chuck Lorre to compose the music for the show. He called me to lead the team of musicians actually making it. I sing the main title theme. I compose the instrumental cues between scenes. Even though this was a new way of making music for me, it starting feeling like the reason I moved to Nashville 27 years ago.
Season 2 felt even better.
Here's what I've learned watching Keb' work: the man will walk into a session, play one bass note, pull out a single snare hit, and the entire piece transforms. Not because he's doing more. Because he knows exactly where the music needs to breathe. That's a lesson I will carry for the rest of my career.
By Season 2, our whole team had found that same language together. We understood what Chuck wanted. We understood each other. The deadlines were still real. The stakes were still high. But the work felt less like pressure. The experience felt like we found a purpose.
That doesn't happen often. I’m not taking it for granted.
Season 2 of Leanne launches late summer on Netflix. When you watch it, you'll hear what that kind of collaboration actually sounds like.
If you want to get closer to the songs — the ones that never made an album, the ones written in little rooms that nobody else ever saw — that's what The Inner Listening Room is for. One vault song a month, with the story behind it. Eight songs are already waiting inside.
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Lauren Lucas is a Nashville-based singer-songwriter and composer. She sings the main title theme and composes the score for Leanne, Seasons 1 and 2, on Netflix. She is a former Warner Bros. recording artist with a 27-year Nashville catalog.
Bonus Episode: Dare to Be Me with Kaci Bolls
For decades, Kaci Bolls Scott has been a sought after Nashville session singer and songwriter. When life nudged her to do an about-face, get her Master's Degree in education and become a kindergarten teacher, Kaci found a way to combine her love of music and kindergarteners by releasing chart-topping hits of original children's music. Based on her song, "Dare to Be Me," Kaci has recently released a children's book by the same name.
We sat down to enjoy her delicious Apple Cider Bellini, and to chat about how she went from pro singer/songwriter to kindergarten teacher, chart-topping children’s music maker and author! Click to enjoy our conversation on your favorite podcast platform or on YouTube!
Bonus Episode: Dare to Be Me with Kaci Bolls
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For decades, Kaci Bolls has been a sought after Nashville session singer and songwriter. When life nudged her to do an about-face, get her Master's Degree in education and become a kindergarten teacher, Kaci found a way to combine her love of music and kindergarteners by releasing chart-topping hits of original children's music. Based on her song, "Dare to Be Me," Kaci has recently released a children's book by the same name.
In this episode, we discuss:
• How she went from a top Nashville singer/songwriter to kindergarten teacher (and being awarded "Teacher of the Year," nonetheless)
• What propelled her to start making chart-topping children's music
• Coming to terms with how she was holding herself back (but NO more!)
• The #1 message she wants kids to know, and the theme of her new book, Dare to Be Me
...and so much more!
We pair every episode with a delicious beverage (because... it's the happiest hour, right?!). Make sure to grab Kaci’s Apple Cider Bellini recipe here that we enjoyed on the episode.
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Connect with Kaci here.
Grab a copy of Kaci’s children’s book, Dare to Be Me, here.
Enjoy Kaci’s wildly successful (and catchy!) children’s music here.
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Don’t Forget the Recipes!
In this episode, we sipped on a cocktail Kaci brought in — a delicious Apple Cider Bellini. It reminded me of one of my favorite Happiest Hour recipes, Bourbon Vanilla Apple Cider Donuts from Ep. 2, so I thought I’d share for you to enjoy!
Cheers!
Apple Cider Bellini
Bourbon Vanilla Apple Cider Donut
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Project Together
I don’t always know when my music is truly making a difference in someone’s life. We write and record songs with the intent of moving people, but after we throw these creations out into the world, we rarely know whose ears they’re hitting or if they’re moving anyone at all.
I got to experience a life-changing musical moment recently. I want to tell you about it. Keep reading…
Project Together - featuring Keb’ Mo’ & Lauren Lucas
Project Together
Project Together
Keb’ Mo’, Lauren Lucas, Bob DiPiero, Pat McMakin
I don’t always know when my music is truly making a difference in someone’s life. We write and record songs with the intent of moving people, but after we throw these creations out into the world, we rarely know whose ears they’re hitting or if they’re moving anyone at all.
From time to time, I’ll get an email or direct message on my socials saying, “I played your song at my wedding.” Or there was that one time I was invited to sing a song live as a proposal (true story! And she said, “yes!”). Those are moments when I know, without a doubt, that something I was a part of hit home.
I got to experience a life-changing musical moment recently. I want to tell you about it.
A few months ago, I was asked to record a duet for an international marketing campaign for Canadian National (CN) Railway Company. This was a dream gig in so many ways. For starters, my duet partner was one of my musical heroes: multi-Grammy award winning blues/Americana artist, Keb’ Mo’.
I’ve been a fan of Keb’s music since college and even performed one of his songs for my senior project to graduate from Belmont University. I’ve heard it said you shouldn’t meet your heroes. Meeting Keb’ Mo’ did not disappoint. He was as kind and authentic as I expected him to be. I loved getting a bird’s eye view of his recording process, but most of all, I enjoyed our conversations in between takes.
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Ocean Way Studio A
Lauren Lucas, Keb’ Mo’ & CN Employees
Getting to record a song written by hit-makers, Bob DiPiero and David Kalmusky, in historic Ocean Way Studio A wasn’t a bad deal, either. Pat McMakin, along with David, manned the ship in the producer seat, with Mills Logan engineering.
Here’s where the real magic starts to happen: CN, a company with over 23,000 employees spanning across North America, held auditions to find 14 musicians to help us record the song. Most of these folks had never met each other. Very few had ever been to Nashville, and even fewer had stepped foot into a recording studio.
Given the bad press lately about derailments and spills, it’s easy to forget how integral trains are to our every day lives. I learned that one triple-stacked train car replaces 10,000 eighteen wheelers on the road. I also learned that more women work in the railway company than I expected, including the CEO and many of it’s engineers. Two women train engineers joined us for this recording.
It was heartwarming to see these 14 strangers connecting over 2 commonalities: a love for music, and pride in a company where their jobs are demanding, isolating and often times dangerous. They bravely sang or played their solo for each other while being amplified (some for the first time), and with video cameras up in their faces!
Taillight TV documented the entire studio experience. They even traveled to all 14 employees’ hometowns to get B roll footage.
What you are about to see in this video is stunning scenery of Canadian countryside, footage from our studio process recording the song called, “Together,” behind-the-scenes interviews from employees and Keb’ Mo’, and the huge hearts that guide the spirit of CN.
Just a few weeks ago, several of these CN employees had to evacuate their homes due to wildfires. These 14 people, once strangers, now see each other as brothers and sisters because of their shared bond in Nashville. They sprang into action, sending train loads of supplies and doing anything they could to help.
The CN employees saw first hand that no matter where you are, or how autonomous the working conditions, business and life mean more when we do it together.
Heck, Pat, David, Keb’ and I could have recorded this song and sent it to CN to enjoy. But it wouldn’t have touched them the way this experience did.
It only matter because we did it together. Push play below to enjoy the song and video of Project Together.
Credits:
Recording Team
Mills Logan, Pat McMakin, David Kalmusky, Lauren Lucas
Executive Producer: Pat McMakin
Song Producers: Pat McMakin, David Kalmusky
Guest Artists: Keb' Mo', Lauren Lucas
Production Coordinator: Bridgette Slater
Audio Team Engineer: Mills Logan
Asst Eng: Katelyn Prieboy, Wolf Robinson
Mixed by: David Kalmusky
Songwriters: Bob Dipiero, David Kalmusky, Marc Pavlica
SESSION MUSICIANS Leader and Drums: Chad Cromwell
Keyboards: Jeff Roach
Bass: Marc Rogers
Electric Guitar: Sol Littlefield
Acoustic Guitar: Bryan Sutton
Electric Guitar: David Kalmusky
Video Team —
Video Producer: Matt Houser
Video Director: Justin Key
Production Coordinator: Taylor Campbell
Director of Photography: Tyler Oaks
Camera – Steadicam: Trent Millspaugh
Camera – Broll: Maria Valetta
1st Assistant Camera: Kenny Herron
2nd Assistant Camera: Quentin Lesser
Camera Utility: Sheila Dunaway
Gaffer: Barrett Depeis
Key Grip: Kitt Fresa
Swing: Luke Lamar
Audio -
Doc Crew: Hunter Vickers
Production Assistant: Patrick Tyler
Production Assistant: Kristen Herbert
CN TALENT:
Anuoluwapo (Anu) Adeola Brian Chojnacki Claire Levesque Eugenia Kefallinos James (Jimmy) Mitchell Jeffrey Aitchison Jonathan Moorman Mariah Lambertus Mark Girgis Rick Laboucan Ryan Whittle Sneha Cherian Timothy Evans PROJECT TEAM: Mark Seland Bridgette Slater Sunny McKechnie Marc Pavlica Alessia Longo Cathy Stojak Sheila Bourque
Recorded at: Ocean Way Nashville, Addiction Studios, Curb Studios
Ep. 10: Staying Inspired with Hit Songwriter, Kirsti Manna
I started my professional career in Nashville as a teenager. My first appearance on the Grand Ole Opry was at age 11. Because I started my professional path so early in life, I have had the amazing privilege of knowing some of my co-writers, collaborators, teachers and mentors for nearly 30 years.
One of those mentors is Kirsti Manna, my guest on Ep. 10 (the grand finale of Happiest Hour Season 1). Kirsti is a hit songwriter, record label president and a fierce advocate for female creatives.
You’ve heard Kirsti’s hits like “Austin” for Blake Shelton and “Loud” for Big & Rich, to name a few.
We sat down to enjoy her delicious watermelon margarita recipe (more on that later), and to chat about the difference music and creativity makes in our lives. Click to enjoy our conversation on your favorite podcast platform or on YouTube!
Ep. 10: Staying Inspired with Kirsti Manna
I started my professional career in Nashville as a teenager. My first appearance on the Grand Ole Opry was at age 11. Because I started my professional path so early in life, I have had the amazing privilege of knowing some of my co-writers, collaborators, teachers and mentors for over 30 years (and counting)!
One of those mentors is Kirsti Manna, my guest on Ep. 10 of Happiest Hour (the grand finale Season 1)! Kirsti is a hit songwriter, publisher, record label VP, and a fierce advocate for female creatives.
You’ve heard Kirsti’s hits like “Austin” for Blake Shelton and “Loud” for Big & Rich, to name a few. Her songs have been heard around the world in such places as CMT, ESPN, Gayle King’s Grammy Special, The Tonight Show, The David Letterman Show, Friday Night Lights, and Dance Wars.
Known as the go-to person for inspirational information, Kirsti’s “whatever you do, stay inspired” mantra has helped girls and women find their creative voice. In 2008, Kirsti launched “Songwriter Girl” and “Songwriter Girl Camps” (www.songwritergirl.com).
Kirsti and I sat down to enjoy her delicious watermelon margarita recipe (more on that later), and to chat about the difference music and creativity can make in everyone's life.
In this episode, we also cover:
How she and her producer-husband, Bill Warner, came to Nashville from Ohio
Her goal of wanting to move people with her art — and how she’s accomplished that
What hard work looks like in the music business
Why mentoring women is so important to her
Her secret to success of working with her husband and staying married over 30 years
What she hopes to leave behind
Okay, now back to that mouth-watering margarita. As with every episode, we paired our conversation with a truly delicious watermelon margarita recipe (thanks to Kirsti’s husband, Bill), and a hack for making excellent hummus that I adapted from the woman who inspired me to start this podcast in the first place.
Get your recipes here! Blend yourself up a batch of Kirsti’s margarita recipe, then join us for the conversation!
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Ready to get inspired and spark your creativity? Check out Kirsti’s Spark Your Creativity Course here.
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Frozen Watermelon Margarita
Hummus Hack
More Songwriter Inspiration…
Ep. 09: The Art of Loosening Up with Jay Knowles
Ep. 09: The Art of Loosening Up with Jay Knowles
In the same way that a great melody is as much about space as it is about notes, Grammy nominated hit songwriter, Jay Knowles, has mastered emphasizing the things about songwriting that have nothing to do with the actual writing part.
He makes sense in nonsensical ways. He says more by saying less. He achieves by not trying to achieve.
I consider Jay Knowles a mentor of mine. He has taught me so much about creativity and lyric writing just by being in the room with him. No doubt, he is one of my favorite songwriters on the planet. Alan Jackson, George Strait, Harry Connick, Jr., Jack Ingram, Lainey Wilson and others agree because they’ve all cut songs written by Jay and made them hits that you probably sing along to in your car.
In Episode 9 of Happiest Hour, Jay dig in about his what it’s like to have hits by giant artists like George Strait, and I ask him some detailed questions about his writing process. If you are a songwriter, aspiring to be, or want to tap deeper into your creativity, this is absolutely a conversation you don’t want to miss.
We also cover:
His favorite song he’s written that others might not like
Why his Jack Ingram hit, “Love You,” almost never got recorded
What he feels like is his best asset as a songwriter and how he approaches new ideas
His hilarious and poignant Substack newsletter, Song Friends
How being at the GRAMMY Awards is an ego booster and an ego buster at the same time
Advice to aspiring songwriters
… and much more. In fact, our conversation got so deep that we will be rolling out a bonus episode with Jay about the particulars of songwriting. Click here to make sure you are receiving emails from me so that you can get alerted to when that episode rolls out!
As always, we pair this episode with 2 delicious recipes — because it’s not the Happiest Hour without great food to go with our great conversation, right?!
In true Jay Knowles fashion, he put his own quirky spin on how to make the best cup of black coffee… ever. And a nostalgic childhood favorite only the way his mom could make it: peanut butter and brown sugar sandwich. Keep reading to learn how to make these yummy recipes while you enjoy our conversation!
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Connect with Jay here!
Join Jay’s Song Friends community on Substack (seriously, if you are a creative — and everybody is whether you realize it or not — you don’t want to miss this)!
Listen to Jay’s discography of hits.
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We paired two delicious recipes with this episode. Get them below.
Cheers!
Clever Coffee
Becky Knowles’ Peanut Butter & Brown Sugar Sandwich
More Happiest Hour…
Ep. 08: Living with Purpose with Risa Binder
The synchronicities abound with Risa. That’s not surprising once you meet her in our upbeat conversation and feel her good energy.
Risa Binder has opened for legends, such as James Taylor and Ronnie Milsap. She hosts her own YouTube series and podcast. She is a recording and touring artist, a songwriter and she is releasing brand new music this spring! Oh… and did I mention she is also a mom??
In Episode 08 of Happiest Hour, Risa shares with us what it means to live her purpose, how she balances being a creative entrepreneur and a mom, and so much more.
Listen on your favorite podcast platform or watch the live interview on YouTube!
Ep. 08: Living with Purpose with Risa Binder
I’ll never forget getting the call from my music publishers that a song I wrote called “Burning Down the Dark” was being cut by an artist named, Risa Binder. That song always felt special to me, so I was thrilled it found a home!
Fast forward, my publishers set Risa and I up to write. But before that date came around, I bumped into Risa in a church pew one Sunday morning. Then, we realized one of my co-writers of “Burning Down the Dark,” by complete coincidence, was from her hometown and they had mutual friends.
The synchronicities abound with Risa. That’s not surprising once you meet her in our upbeat conversation and feel her good energy.
Risa has opened for legends, such as James Taylor and Ronnie Milsap. She hosts her own YouTube series and podcast. She is a recording and touring artist, a songwriter and she is releasing brand new music this spring! Oh… and did I mention she is also a mom??
In the episode we talk about:
✨Her first experience at The Bluebird Cafe and falling in love with the songwriter’s heart
✨How her grandmothers and mom influenced her life philosophy
✨ How a broken heart lead her to a Mariachi band in a subway (that was a funny story! Around minute 11:03)
✨Why it’s important to “tell the story” as a creative
✨How she fulfills here heart’s desire while being a busy mom
✨Her favorite beauty products when she’s hitting the road on tour
✨ What she hopes to leave behind
That’s not all! My guests and I always pair each episode with 2 delicious recipes. You do NOT want to miss the incredible “French Toast Latte” Risa brought to this episode. Seriously, this latte is life-changing. I threw in my favorite S’mores hack you can make in any weather, sans campfire. I swear, it will be a go-to treat all year round in your home.
Scroll down to get them below!
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Listen to Risa’s music!
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We paired two delicious recipes with this episode. Get them below.
Cheers!
Iced French Toast Latte
S’mores Dip
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Ep. 07: From Guts to the GRAMMYs with Victoria Banks
How did a Canadian zoologist who, initially, didn't have the guts to pursue music become a Grammy nominated hit songwriter and CCMA-winning artist in her own right?
Victoria Banks' story takes lots of twists and turns. In Episode 07 of Happiest Hour, Victoria shares with us how it took losing her job in Canada to finally begin chasing her dream of being a songwriter, and so much more.
Listen on your favorite podcast platform or watch the live interview on YouTube!
Ep. 07: From Guts to the GRAMMYs with Victoria Banks
How did a Canadian zoologist who, initially, didn't have the guts to pursue music, become a Grammy nominated hit songwriter and CCMA-winning artist?
Victoria Banks' story takes a lot of twists and turns. In Episode 07 of Happiest Hour, Victoria shares with us how it took losing her job in Canada to finally begin chasing her dream of being a songwriter in Nashville.
We also cover:
• How she went from writing songs for other artists to becoming a Canadian Country Music Award (CCMA)-winning Artist of the Year
• What it was like juggling her hit songwriting career in the U.S. and a hit recording career in Canada
• The benefit of pivoting in life
• How her favorite cut as a songwriter almost didn't happen -- and then led to a GRAMMY nomination
• Her family life organization strategies
🍵 Don't forget, we pair each episode with a delicious beverage and easy weekend recipe! This week, Victoria introduced me to homemade matcha latte. I paired the latte with a fan-submitted recipe for classic pimento cheese. Scroll down to get them below!
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Listen to Victoria's music
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We paired two delicious recipes with this episode. Get them below.
Cheers!
Homemade Matcha Latte
Sharon’s Classic Pimento Cheese
More Happiest Hour…
Ep. 06: When Walking Away Means Walking Towards Something Bigger with Cyndi Thomson
Today, you see Cyndi Thomson's luxury jewelry dripping off superstars like Lizzo, Lauren Alaina, Natalie Hemby (of the Highwomen) and Kimberly Paisley. Did you know that Cyndi was on the verge of superstardom herself with a hit radio single and gold album, My World?
Cyndi made the difficult decision to walk away from the music business as her star was on the rise. In this episode, we talk about how walking away from one thing means walking towards something else. And what a beautiful, big life she walked into!
Listen on your favorite podcast platform or watch the live interview on YouTube!
Ep. 06: When Walking Away Means Walking Towards Something Bigger with Cyndi Thomson
Today, you see Cyndi Thomson's luxury jewelry dripping off superstars like Lizzo, Lauren Alaina, Natalie Hemby (of the Highwomen) and Kimberly Paisley. Did you know that Cyndi was on the verge of superstardom herself with a hit radio single and gold album, My World?
Cyndi made the difficult decision to walk away from the music business as her star was on the rise. In this episode, we talk about how walking away from one thing means walking towards something else. And what a beautiful, big life she walked into!
In this episode, we cover:
How the songs from her iconic gold record, My World, continue to make an impact
Where music fits in her life now -- and if we can expect more music from her in the future
What life has looked like between walking away from a hit music career and starting her hit luxury jewelry business, Haybelle Co.
Finding balance as a wife, mom, musician, small business owner
Her marriage secrets (married 20 years after only dating a few months!)
What she hopes to leave as her legacy
🍹 We paired this episode with a delicious grapefruit vodka cocktail that Cyndi loves and I share a super simple dessert that my grandma used to make. Scroll down for the recipes!
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Shop her every day jewelry and luxury pieces at Haybelle Co.
Listen to her iconic hit country album, My World.
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The Sparkling Jewel
Louise’s Baked Apples
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Ep. 05: Choose Your Attitude, Choose Your Life - with Legendary Fitness Instructor, Mary Helen Yarbrough
A teacher of mine once told me, “To the extent you experience darkness, you will have the capacity to experience that same degree of light.”
Have you ever heard something like that?
Well, let me tell ya, Mary Helen Yarbrough is no stranger to darkness. She experienced profound losses in her teen and young adult years that sent her life into a spiral.
So, maybe that explains why she is one of the most authentically positive and inspirational people in my life (and in many others’ lives, as well).
In Episode 5 of Happiest Hour, we don’t hold back. Mary Helen tells her story of loss and pain, as well as sharing her life philosophy that makes her life tick, and so much more.
Listen on your favorite podcast app or watch on YouTube!
Ep. 05: Choose Your Attitude, Choose Your Life - with Legendary Fitness Instructor, Mary Helen Yarbrough
A teacher of mine once told me, “To the extent you experience darkness, you will have the capacity to experience that same degree of light.”
Have you ever heard something like that?
Well, let me tell ya, Mary Helen Yarbrough is no stranger to darkness. She experienced profound losses in her teen and young adult years that sent her life into a spiral.
So, maybe that explains why she is one of the most authentically positive and inspirational people in my life (and in many others’ lives, as well).
If you have followed me for a while, you know that I am not shy about sharing how much I love taking Jazzercise from Mary Helen. She was recently featured on our largest news station where our star news anchor, Tracy Kornet (who also attends our Jazzercise class) called her a, “legend.” I will second that!
We don’t hold back in this episode. Mary Helen tells her story of loss and pain, as well as sharing her life philosophy that makes her life tick.
In this conversation, we also cover:
Her story of loss that made her who she is today
Where she got her work ethic
How weekly Happy Hours led her to discover Jazzercise
How she built her legendary (yes, legendary!) Nashville fitness business over 40 years ago as a busy wife and mom
Debunking the 80’s stereotype of Jazzercise (no, we don’t wear leg warmers)
Why her classes feel fun, inclusive and safe
Her secret to success for maintaining relationships and a strong business
The choice she makes daily that makes her so impactful to others
Spoiler alert: we get into some heavy conversation, including mental health and mention of suicide. If you or someone you know is struggling, please know that 24 hour support is available to you by simply dialing 988 from your phone.
Something else you’re going to want to know about Mary Helen: she is a fabulous cook! And her husband is retired from the liquor industry, so this woman knows how to mix a dang good cocktail.
Make sure you check out the 2 recipes Mary Helen brought to pair with this episode!
Get your recipes and show notes right here:
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You can also find Mary Helen on Instagram.
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We paired two delicious recipes with this episode. Get them below.
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French 75 Cocktail
Mary Helen’s Shrimp Dip
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Ep. 04: Food is not your problem, Dieting is not Your Answer - with Cindy Landham
Have you ever felt guilty about eating something? I'm talking, really guilty. Maybe it even sent you down a shame spiral. Do you ever sneak food, or avoid food all together because it's just too hard to control? After you over indulge, do you exercise harder than usual to balance the "damage" you've done? Do you vow to "do better" tomorrow (or when Monday rolls around)? Have you lost and re-gained the same pounds over and over again?
Then, listen up! Most American adults have experienced these thoughts and feelings. I know I sure have. If this sounds like you, too, then this episode is for you.
Before you set your New Years Resolutions around your health for this coming year, please listen to this episode of Happiest Hour with my guest, Liberated Eating Coach, Cindy Landham.
Ep. 04 Food is Not Your Problem, Dieting is Not Your Answer with Cindy Landham
Have you ever felt guilty about eating something? I'm talking, really guilty. Maybe it even sent you down a shame spiral. Do you ever sneak food, or avoid food all together because it's just too hard to control? After you over indulge, do you exercise harder than usual to balance the "damage" you've done? Do you vow to "do better" tomorrow (or when Monday rolls around)? Have you lost and re-gained the same pounds over and over again?
Then, listen up! Most American adults have experienced these thoughts and feelings. I know I sure have. If this sounds like you, too, then this episode is for you.
Here's the good news: there is a path to freedom from obsessive thoughts surrounding food, exercise and body shaming.
Here's even more good news: this path doesn't involve dieting, shakes, pills, pre-packaged food, counting points and calories, or even joining a gym.
Before you set your New Years Resolutions around your health for this coming year, please listen to this episode of Happiest Hour with my guest, Liberated Eating Coach, Cindy Landham.
It could change your life. I know, that's a bold statement, but she sure has changed mine.
In this episode, we cover:
• Why diet culture is failing us
• Traditional thinking vs. liberated thinking around our health and wellness
• When parents are the food police
• What loving your body really means
☕️ Whoa! All foods fit from Cindy’s perspective, so you better bet we paired this episode with two delicious recipes! Check out Cindy's homemade, made-from-scratch spiced chai latte. This tea will leave you feeling so comfy, warm and nourished.
And I'm sharing the shepherd's pie recipe that has become a tradition for my husband and me during the holidays.
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Get to know Cindy by visiting her at her website and on Facebook.
If you can’t wait for the results of the book drawing and want a copy of Cindy’s book now, you can snag a copy here!
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Get a copy of Cindy’s book and get started on your liberating journey!
Don’t Forget the Recipes!
We paired two delicious recipes with this episode. Get them below.
Cheers!
Homemade Spiced Chai
The Very Best Shepherd’s Pie
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Ep. 03: Jumping in the Driver's Seat with The Wildcards
In Ep. 03 of Happiest Hour, my guests are Ashley Gearing and Andrea Young -- collectively known as the critically acclaimed duo, The Wildcards. You've heard about this electric duo through American Songwriter, CMT and on stages opening for superstars like Joe Nichols and Chris Lane. We chat about how they are taking control of the creative process, why they jumped into the producer seat for their latest music releases and so much more!
Ep. 03 Jumping in the Driver’s Seat with The Wildcards
Welcome to Episode 03 of Happiest Hour! My guests are Ashley Gearing and Andrea Young -- collectively known as the critically acclaimed duo, The Wildcards.
You've heard about this electric duo through American Songwriter, CMT and on stages opening for superstars like Joe Nichols and Chris Lane. In today's episode, we chat about how they are taking control of the creative process and why they jumped into the producer seat for their latest music releases.
We also cover:
• Creating the ✨ "Friday Night Feeling" ✨ for their fans
• What it's like being a part of Fox's new hit drama, Monarch
• Why it's so important to be a good hang on the road
🍹 We paired this episode with a Merry Margarita -- the traditional tequila classic you love with a little extra “jingle jangle.”
Don't forget to check out our easy weekend side dish: Cowboy Caviar! It's the perfect companion to that margarita. My college roommates and I used to make this all the time, so when Ashley suggested it, I was excited! We put our own spin on this super simple dip.
Get your recipes below!
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We paired two delicious recipes with this episode. Get them below.
Cheers!
Merry Margarita
Cowboy Caviar Dip
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Ep. 02: The Importance of Keeping it Super Real - Jenny Gill
In episode 2 of Happiest Hour, my guest is film director, recording artist, and daughter of country music royalty, Jenny Gill. Jenny is one of the most hilarious and authentic people I know. Listen in as she talks about forging her own path in TV and film, finding work/life/mom balance and why she thinks it so important to keep her social media super real.
Jenny Gill could make anyone laugh — and usually does.
In Episode 2, my guest is film director, recording artist, wife and mother of two, Jenny Gill. She might as well add “comedian” to her bio because she is one of the most hilarious people you’ll ever meet. In this world of highlight reels and social media, she is determined to keep her humor and authenticity front and center.
Jenny and I chat about why it’s so important to her to keep her social media, and her life, super real. We also cover:
• What being the daughter of country music royalty has taught her
• Finding her own path in life
• How to balance career, friendship and motherhood… or not.
Follow along Jenny’s hilarious Instagram feed and enjoy her music on Spotify.
Enjoying this? I wrote a letter I wish someone had sent me at 35 — plus a playlist to go with it. Both are yours, free. Grab them here.
Don’t Forget the Recipes!
We paired two delicious recipes with this episode. Get them below.
Cheers!
Bourbon Cowboy Twist
Bourbon Vanilla Apple Cider Donuts
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Ep. 01: The Power of Persistence - Whitney Duncan
In this inaugural episode of Happiest Hour, my guest is recording artist, songwriter and reality TV star, Whitney Duncan. You may recognize Whitney from her single, “Skinny Dippin’” or from her appearances on Survivor, Nashville Star and The Amazing Race!
Ep. 01 The Power of Persistence - Whitney Duncan
In this inaugural episode of Happiest Hour, my guest is recording artist, songwriter and reality TV star, Whitney Duncan. You may recognize Whitney from her single, “Skinny Dippin’” or from her appearances on Survivor, Nashville Star and The Amazing Race!
Whitney shares about the power of persistence in both her personal and work life. We also cover:
• Being multi-passionate and finding balance between a variety of interests
• How to navigate the different career phases of a professional musician
• We unexpectedly took a deep dive into our family planning stories — including IVF struggles and pregnancy loss.
If you watch the live video of this episode on YouTube, you’ll notice that Whitney is pregnant! Her little bundle of joy came a few weeks early and she is now living the full-on mom life!
Follow along Whitney’s journey on her Instagram and listen to her music on Spotify.
Don’t Forget the Recipes!
We paired two delicious recipes with this episode. Grab them below. Cheers!
Hack for Super Creamy Hot Chocolate
Classic Roasted Root Vegetables - Perfect for your holiday table!
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How the Happiest Hour was Born
How “taking over” Living with Landyn’s Instagram feed for a day planted the seed for the Happiest Hour Podcast and why shining a spotlight on the inspirational people in my life feels so important.
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Over the summer, I had the opportunity to “take over” the Instagram page of one of my favorite lifestyle entrepreneur’s, Landyn Hutchinson of Living with Landyn. For one day, I shared what it’s like in a day-in-the-life of a professional singer/songwriter, my favorite life hacks, recipes, books, and most importantly (to me), inspirational people and organizations that have transformed my life.
I received a bunch of DM’s on my Instagram page asking me for more information and recommendations. I mean… what?! I’m a working singer/songwriter mom having a little fun playing “Landyn” for a day. I did NOT expect people to turn to me for advice on life or lipgloss.
One of the most popular questions I received from that day was: how do you foster such a strong sense of community in your life as an adult, and how can I find ways to transform my own life?
Sometimes social media can feel super gross and self-indulgent to me, but it felt so comfortable and fun to shine a spotlight on other people in my life. Then to go a step further and realize that by sharing about who and what inspired me was actually helping other people… whew! That felt fulfilling!
That’s when it hit me.
I took inventory about what was so meaningful to me about that Instagram takeover day. Authentic connection, fostering community, fun, food, drinks… well, heck. That sounds like one of my favorite things: happy hour!
“But better,” I thought to myself. What’s better than happy hour?
The Happiest Hour!
The idea for the Happiest Hour was conceived.
Lauren Lucas with her first guest, recording artist and reality TV star, Whitney Duncan.
I hope you enjoy this inaugural season of the Happiest Hour. It’s a space to find inspiration and feel authentically connected with the world around you. I interview the most inspiring people in my life in the fields of music, film, wellness, and creative entrepreneurship. You’ll find a shot of humor and a dash of down-to-earth grit in each episode. My guests and I don’t shy away from real talk! Plus, we pair a delicious beverage and an easy weekend recipe with each episode. You can find the recipes and more information about my guests right here on my website.
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3 Things Every Songwriter Should Know About Using Imagery
As I'm preparing to teach my songwriting class at Belmont University, I'm reminded of something my friend Jamie Floyd shared with the audience about songwriting at our recent show at the Bluebird Cafe: the more detailed and personal the lyrics, the more universal the message for the listener. It seems counterintuitive, but it's true. In fact, the text we use for our songwriting class begins with this very lesson. Read on to learn 3 things to remember when using imagery in your lyrics…
Read on and you’ll see what I mean. Here are 3 things songwriters should remember about using imagery in their lyrics:
The other day, I was preparing for the next lesson in my songwriting class at Belmont University. The lesson was about using description and imagery. I was reminded of something my friend, Jamie Floyd, shared with the audience at the Bluebird Cafe about songwriting at our recent show together: the more detailed and personal the lyrics, the more universal the message for the listener. That might sound counterintuitive, but it's true.
Image by my friend and former band mate, Clint McKoy!
One way to make a song’s message universal is by using imagery. Read on and you’ll see what I mean. Here are 3 things songwriters should remember about using imagery in their lyrics:
Make the details personal: The steady “tap tap tap” sound of summer rain dripping out of the gutter is the backbeat of my backyard. Water pools in this one little dip of our flagstone patio. It doesn’t stand a chance. High-pitched squeals and the faint smell of rubber come crashing through the backdoor as my toddler’s yellow boots aim right for the puddle: splat!
In my head, I am seeing exactly the way my backyard looks after it rains. I see where the gutter hangs on the corner of my house, and where my son’s favorite puddle forms on our back patio.
You have no clue what my backyard looks like, and you don’t have to in order to make a connection to that image. While I’m describing my backyard after a summer rain, your brain is likely envisioning an experience you’ve had about summer rain. When we draw from details in our own lives, our experiences transfer to the mind’s eye of our listener. Our audience inputs imagery from their own life or imagination.
Use poetic license: In Pat Pattison’s book, Writing Better Lyrics, he warns songwriters not to let reality get in the way of the truth. Yes, drawing from our own lives can help us jumpstart a song idea, but we don’t have to tell every detail exactly the way it happened. The truth lives in the universal emotion of our human stories. Allow your imagination to wander. Have some fun! If it’s better for the song to make the car a little red Rodeo with Texas plates (who caught my 90’s Collin Raye reference?! 🙋🏻♀️), but in reality, it was a Honda Civic, go with the candy apple red Rodeo!
You can train your brain: My mom recently reminded me that one of my greatest music teachers growing up, Dr. Dick Goodwin, told her years ago that people think songwriting is an innate talent, but in fact, it is absolutely a learned skill. You can get better at using imagery in your writing simply by practicing. Here’s an idea: after you wake up and get your first cup of coffee, set a timer for 5 minutes. Think of a childhood memory and describe it in as much detail as possible. Allow your language to show rather than tell. When time is up, stop writing. The next morning, choose a different childhood memory and do it again. Then do it again the next day. And again the next. And the next. Pretty soon, your brain will become accustomed to looking for the details more quickly and with greater ease.
As listeners, we all know that incredible feeling when a song speaks directly to us; like somehow the songwriter must have jumped in our skin and lived our life when we weren’t looking. As songwriters, we yearn to write songs that make people feel that way. Keeping your imagery detailed and personal is a great way to aim at the heart of your listener.
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How to Write a Song When You’re Out of Ideas
Every songwriter has a blank page problem. Here's how to fill it.
Lauren lost in a song — the best kind of lost.
If you are a songwriter, then you have a problem.
Relax. I’m not talking about Hemingway-sized alcoholic tendencies or crazy dark mood swings (although, many creative writers have those problems, as well). Your problem as a writer is a blank page. Our job as songwriters is to take the essence of an idea, marry it with emotion and make it rhyme in 15 to 20 lines of lyric.
So, how are we going to fill that page?
In my experience with co-writing and talking to my peers in the songwriting community, it seems no one finds inspiration the same way. Some people start with a lyric idea and don’t even consider melody until the lyric is written. Others vibe out on a melody and let nonsense words or syllables fall out until they turn into actual words. There are countless other ways. Let’s look at a few of my favorites.
I’m going to share with you 4 ways to find the inspiration you need to write your next song, even if you don’t have any ideas.
Make inspiration, don’t wait for it. Stop the scroll! Yup, you heard me. Turn off the smart phones, TV and laptop. Plan 30 minutes, an hour, 3 hours - whatever you’ve got. Discipline yourself to stay focused on creativity for that amount of time. What happens in this time doesn’t have to be active writing. In fact, it’s probably not going to be. The flip side of turning off all distractions is that you sit in a quiet room with an empty head waiting for brilliance to strike. If that’s your strategy, you’ll likely be waiting or a long time. Then, you’ll just get frustrated coming up with nothing.
In the time you’ve set aside for yourself, do things that inspire creativity. You might strum your guitar, or brain dump into a journal. Perhaps you already have a lyrical hook burning a hole in your brain. So, maybe you take 30 minutes to write as many rhyming couplets as you can think of for that hook.
If you do any of these things during your distraction-free creative time, then that would be a good day’s work. You’re teasing out inspiration. The more you set aside quiet time for creative play, the more often inspiration will appear.
Read. Let’s be honest, there are no new ideas. We’re all subconsciously “borrowing” from everything we’ve ever heard or experienced and putting our own spin on it. We need input in order to have output. A former publisher of mine used to tell me, “You can’t write if you don’t read.”
Tom Douglas (“The House that Built Me,” “Little Rock”) told me that he reads the news, the Bible and a piece of fiction every day as part of his daily writing process.
Hey, if it’s good enough for Tom Douglas, it’s good enough for me.
Dare to suck. This might be the most important step. It took me years to feel comfortable opening up to my co-writers with ideas or lines that weren’t quite perfect. Even now when I write by myself, I have trouble letting everything flow out without major self-editing. At this point in the writing process, it’s just a big ol’ brainstorm. And here’s the thing about brainstorming: there is no such thing as a bad idea. When you say (or write down) everything that’s on your mind during brainstorming, one of three things will happen:
Ideas build upon each other. Whatever you say will likely spark a new idea in yourself or your co-writer.
Sometimes, you just need to get the mental cobwebs out in order to get to the good stuff.
You’ll solve your problem and finish your song.
I can’t promise you a hit song, or even a cut, but I can promise you the sooner you dare to suck, the better writer you’ll be.
Quit. Sometimes a song just won’t behave. The momentum dies, you’re frustrated and the meter or rhyme isn’t feeling quite right. Don’t force anything. Just quit! Not for good — for a few hours or maybe for the day. Go grab lunch. Take a walk. Movement is a great way to get yourself unstuck.
Sometimes we’re just too close to the idea to see how the story should go. When your brain is fried, pushing through will likely just make you more frustrated and you won’t get any further. Or worse, you’ll start phoning it in just to make the line rhyme or the phrase fit. Give your brain the mental break it needs and come back fresh. You’ll likely see the problem and be able to fix it quickly when you revisit the song.
Every writer finds inspiration a little bit differently, and often no one finds it the same way twice. Do you have any tried and true ways of finding inspiration to write and teasing out new ideas? Let me know in the comments. I want to hear them!
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How to Make Friends as an Adult
A few weeks ago, I received some DM’s during my Living with Landyn Instagram takeover about how I cultivated community for myself as an adult. Some people moved to new towns, some were in career transitions. Even for seasoned networkers on Music Row, let’s face it: making authentic friends as an adult can be difficult. Here are a few thoughts on what helped me.
I was newly divorced and super lonely. I suddenly found myself with half of my friend group — and most of them were married and had young children. Even though we were in our late twenties/early thirties at the time, our lifestyles were very different.
It also turns out that when you get divorced, you go from a double income family to a single income real quick. At that time, I was searching for my next publishing deal and working a “civilian job,” as I like to call it, so chasing my dreams became even more dire. Life literally forced me to make one of two choices: curl up in a ball and shrivel into darkness (okay, that sounds dramatic, but it felt pretty dramatic at the time) OR put one foot in front of the other and try some new things. For some reason (the likely reason being therapy), I chose the latter.
Networking and meeting new people is the name of the game in the Music Business, so I had some familiarity with the process. Still, it’s hard making new friends and finding community as an adult.
A few weeks ago, I received DM’s on Instagram during my Living with Landyn takeover about some things I mentioned on stories. During a portion of the takeover, I shared about hobbies, books and counseling/coaching that has been truly transformative for me. I mentioned that I joined the Nashville Rowing Club for a short a while. I talked about discovering The Estuary, a spiritual healing center where I continue to take classes that have helped me grow and transform in ways I never thought possible. Some folks wanted to know how I got so involved in my community; how do I find people and organizations that really light me up? Some people said they had recently moved to a new town and were having trouble plugging in and finding good resources.
Whew. I’ve been in your shoes. But I wasn’t exactly sure how to answer these questions at first. “Just get out there and go for it,” seems like an annoying thing to say. If you’re having trouble plugging in, it’s probably because you already are “getting out there” and aren’t finding what you want. As a toddler mom, I’m reminded that we used to make friends by literally walking up to each other and asking, “Will you be my friend?” It just doesn’t feel that simple now that we’re adults.
Giving advice can be tricky business. I can, however, share my experience and maybe something will resonate. So, I thought about what was it that was so impactful to me about how I built community around myself that has been so life-changing. A few things dawned on me and I will share them with you.
Here are 4 ways to make friends as an adult:
Get curious. When I found myself in a huge life transition, I chose to get curious. There was nothing and no one holding me back. I got to make all the rules in my life with complete autonomy. So, I got curious about how I could shake up my old routines, what inspires me and what I’d always wanted to try but never felt like I had the time or gave myself the chance. If you’re in a new town or going through a major transition like I was, now is the time! Your life just blew up and a new thing is happening! Aren’t you curious to see what it could be?
Keep an open mind. Here’s what I mean: if I try something (e.g. a class, a meet up group, a new sport) and it turns out not to be a good fit, I don’t see the experience as a waste of time. Instead, I feel grateful that I checked it off my list and can move on from it quickly to the next thing. Knowing what I don’t like is just as important as knowing what I do. It’s like when we were kids and our parents forced us to take “at least one bite” of a new food. How do you know if you like it or not until you try it? As long as an idea matches up with my values, I’m here for it. At least once. Where do I sign up?
Find the exit. This is the most important thing of all: I have learned to feel in my body when something is not meant for me. I get it wrong sometimes, but I’m a lot better at it than I used to be. If I feel dread about going somewhere or doing something, I know that I shouldn’t have committed to it or enrolled in the opportunity. The next time I get an idea or an invitation and it makes me feel that way, I will politely decline. That invitation was apparently not meant for me because it didn’t bring me joy.
On the other hand, if I feel a super high vibration of frantic energy or urgency when I see an opportunity to connect, I also know that’s not meant for me. I am likely wanting to impress someone, people-please or get into perfectionist mode when I feel that way. A who’s who event is likely not for me. I know myself. I will be too temped to hustle. I’ll be concerned about people-pleasing, fitting in and attempting to be “perfect” in that environment and it will wear me out. I stick to things that feel truly aligned for me. I have learned how to tune into my body for that because my mind will deceive me real quick.
Again, I get it wrong sometimes, but tuning into my body has been one of my best guides in life. I only wish I knew how to trust it sooner. I usually feel things in my gut, but some people feel a tightening in their throats or the hairs stand up on their arms. Pay attention. Where do you feel your body guiding you?
Make yourself useful. Sometimes, instead of asking “Where do I belong?” I asked, “How can I help?” Being of service to others is one of the best ways I know of to find connection and change a life — quite possibly your own. Around the same time I was going through that big life transition, I participated in my very first Habitat for Humanity build. I ended up meeting so many wonderful people across several generations and nationalities. I’ve gone back to build annually for nearly ten years. I make true connections and I learn a few new skills (no previous experience required). If you need someone to hang insulation, calk or install windows in your home, I’m your girl. 😉
“Being of service to others is one of the best ways I know of to find connection and change a life — quite possibly your own.”
Welp, that’s about all I know. This journey of building community is trial and error. There are no quick fixes in that list; rather, a few ideas that will maybe resonate with you about how to feel your way through a new stage in your life.
I’ll list the groups I mentioned in my Living with Landyn Instagram takeover below. Some of the things I’m involved in offer virtual events and classes, so even if you’re not in Nashville, you can participate. Obviously, don’t feel any pressure to do the things I love. These are some of the things that light me up. You will find what lights you up. When you do, will you please let me know in comments? I would LOVE to know how you’re connecting in your communities!
A few of my favorite things…
The Estuary — A non-profit spiritual healing center located in Nashville. They have an office in Nashville for local in-person offerings. They also offer virtual classes, workshops and counseling for integrative therapy.
The Liberated Eater — An online wellness community to help you trust your body, led by intuitive eating coach, Cindy Landham. Cindy is absolutely fabulous at what she does. Her business is head quartered in Murfreesboro, TN, but she reaches people worldwide through her online workshop and virtual coaching.
The Nashville Rowing Club — Beginner lessons and Master Rowing Club. Hey, if you’re in Nashville or ever find yourself visiting, check ‘em out!
Jazzercise — Not your grandma’s workout! For real. Mary Helen is the JAM here in Nashville. Her classes are mostly women of all ages, but several husbands come on the reg. There are franchises worldwide and probably in your area. If you want to experience the magic of Mary Helen, but you’re not local to Nashville or don’t want to come in-person, maybe Mary Helen will let you take the virtual option through her franchise? It’s worth checking out.
Habitat for Humanity — A nonprofit organization that helps people in your community and around the world build or improve a place they can call home.
NSAI (Nashville Songwriters Association International) — NSAI is the first stop for aspiring and professional songwriters. I served two terms on the board of directors for this organization. (Oh! That reminds me: Board service. That’s another great way to connect in your community!) NSAI is a fantastic way to get connected for songwriters of all levels and, really, for anyone new to town wanting to get into the music business. The organization offers a variety of tools, coaching, and networking, plus a strong presence on The Hill fighting for creator’s intellectual property rights.
The Carolina Kind
How a song keeps living on and impacting lives… especially mine.
This year, I’ve been performing livestream concerts every-other-week for my supporter tribe. The connection we’ve made in that group has been very meaningful to me. I met some of the people in the group two decades ago when I first began releasing music publicly. I know their favorite songs, their families, their health issues, their losses, their celebrations. They have forged friendships with each other from meeting at shows or chatting in the private group. This tribe really is a tight knit community that has taken on a life of its own and for that I am so grateful.
One of the things that strikes me is how often certain songs get requested in my livestreams. “The Carolina Kind” is one of the most requested songs. This song means so much to me because it came from a personal place. And it is such a thrill to know that it hits other people in a personal way.
When I first recorded “The Carolina Kind”, the intent was to put it on an album that would be publicly released by a major label. I hoped it would be the title track. Alas, champions of mine left the label before the album was released, a new guard came into the label and that dream of an album titled, The Carolina Kind by yours truly never came to fruition. Recently, I came across a mockup of what the album cover might have looked like and I thought it would be fun to share.
This might have been what my album cover looked like!
I still love playing “The Carolina Kind.” Sometimes songs lose their shine after years of playing them, but this is a song that still means a lot to me. I’m so glad it means a lot to other people, too. In fact, it means so much that I decided to re-record the song years later and included it on my EP titled, If I Was Your Girl. You can hear the produced studio version two ways:
You can choose to stream it on your favorite digital platform or go old school with a physical copy.
Been a Minute
An overdue update on becoming a mom, laying low and making music from my home studio!
Hey there! It’s been a while since I’ve properly checked in. A lot of new things have happened since the beginning of 2020. Here’s what I’ve been up to:
I became a mom! Yup, I had a baby in late March of 2020, just as everything was beginning to lockdown here in the U.S. I’m a boy mom to an adorable toddler.
He was pre-term, so we spent several weeks in the NICU. We will forever be grateful for the nurses, doctors and neonatologists who helped our little nugget grow big and strong. They are angels and heroes.
I mostly spent the next several months staring at my beatiful boy and being a hermit. I learned that postpartum baby blues and anxiety is a real thing. But, the fog does eventually lift and when it did…
I began diving back into my home studio. I’ve been staying mostly behind the scenes tracking voice overs, vocals and guitars for friends’ projects and corporate clients. It’s opening up a whole new chapter in my creativity and, ultimately, my music career.
And now I’m coming out of hiding — feeling good, super busy in a great way, and enjoying the heck out of reconnecting with y’all!
Soooo, catch me up. What have YOU been up to? I’m spending most of my time over on Instagram these days. Hit me up at @laurenlucasinsta and fill me in!